A woman left people with mixed opinions after sharing her love life that she is dating a man whose salary is ten times less than hers, and all of her friends ask her to break up with him because their relationship would not work for a long time.
While giving an interview to the British parenting website, Mumsnet, she revealed that before her new relationship, she had been divorced and had dated multiple men. Despite earning less, her boyfriend insists to pay for her every time.
The mother of three said that money doesn’t matter to her, but according to her friends, her relationship will not work logistically in the future.
“We both have three kids around the same ages, both have similar long term dreams and interests and just get on brilliantly.”
“I’ve been divorced for a decade and all the men I’ve dated have earned less than me and it’s never really been an issue. However, this is the first time the gap has been this big,” she wrote.
“A couple of my friends have insisted it could never work though. The concern is how it could work logistically in the long term. I have a really nice lifestyle (all self-funded) and although I’m not into designer brands or fancy restaurants, do like to travel to nice places, or to be able to enjoy some of the things a higher salary allows, like being able to jump in a taxi home rather than taking public transport, that kind of thing,” the woman added.
Anyhow, she shared that every time her boyfriend pays her bills she feels guilty because he earns more less than hers.
“So unsure what to do. I couldn’t care less how much a man earns. He’s a hard worker and s great person and a great dad,” she continued. “I do see that logistical issues may surface in the future though and I’m not sure what to do about that. He does have assets. He has a nice home actually. He’s owned it for a long time.”
Following her post, many social media user advised her to not marry her boyfriend because the salary difference was such a big issue. Some commented that the financial problems could destroy their relationship if she would marry to this man.
“Hmmmm… I dated someone who earned at least 50% less than me, no desire to do anything more to earn more,” someone wrote. “He was lovely and it was nice whilst it lasted, but I quickly realised I would need to make either sacrifices and not do what I would like, or pay the lion’s share always- in terms of holidays, activities, dates etc. I wasn’t comfortable with either option and knew I would resent him for this.”
“It’s nice that he pays and he sound lovely but think about long term. Your planning a holiday you want to go 5** star long haul for three weeks but his budget is 3 star Europe for a week,” a second comment read.
“Maybe my opinion is skewed by a lifetime of relationships with low earning, low ambition men who seemed lovely to begin with but end up thoroughly taking the p*** and wringing me dry financially. Maybe he is lovely. But just be careful op,” a third wrote.
On the other hand, many of them suggested her to not end her relationship just because of money if he is a nice man and she is in love with him.
“I would, in your position. Money shouldn’t dictate everything. I’d far rather take the bus with a man I love than go home alone in a taxi,” a comment read.
“There are literally no red flags about this man, I can’t work out what the issue is. He is solvent, a homeowner, pays his way (and yours), has a great relationship with his kids and has loads in common with you and is respectful,” someone else wrote.
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