A 35-year-old woman named Brynn Embley revealed that she has been married to a gay man, and they are also parents of two young children.
According to her, she and her husband named Matthew Neilson shares great sexual chemistry as they never had any issues.
As per the reports of NY Post, “The mom-of-two describes herself as straight while her husband Matthew identifies as gay or pansexual, admitting he is “more attracted to men than women.”
While talking to The Sun, she said that in the starting years of her marriage, she felt insecure but not now because their relationship has been becoming stronger day by day.
“I used to feel insecure sometimes, but then we decided to be strong together, and our relationship has come a long way. We have something different… what we have, doesn’t depend on physical appearance and chemistry. It’s more than that.”
She also said that when his husband was a teenager, he felt attracted to men; but the church to where he belonged didn’t accept the relationship of same-sex. So, he started to date women in his twenties.
“Despite dating women, he was quite outspoken about his preferences and his identity. He looked straight at me and said ‘Brynn, I’m gay.’ I remember it because he seemed so serious – or like he was looking for some sort of reaction from me,” she said.
“It just wasn’t a huge deal, he was with me, his choice – what else mattered?”
“I already knew that we didn’t have a strong chemical attraction as I had experienced with other boyfriends, but it didn’t really matter to me.”
The Michigan resident revealed that Matthew felt something for her when they began dating, and his sexual orientation couldn’t negate his feelings for her.
“I was really happy that I had a relationship where the selling point was liking and respecting each other as people.”
33-year-old Matthew shared with the outlet that he parted ways with Brynn for some time due to his great attraction toward men.
“I don’t think I actually had much emotional bandwidth at that time because I was still trying to deal with my strong feelings about another guy.”
“It didn’t feel fair to either of us to keep up the relationship if I wasn’t sure about that basic attraction.”
The pair told that even after their breakup, they were friends, and then Neilson started realizing that he had a powerful connection with Embley.
“But we trusted that the other elements of our relationship were there, and if that part was more difficult, we could work on it together. There was this mutual feeling of complete and utter happiness – like he was my person.” Brynn told.
“I still was uncertain about the strength of our sexual connection. I tried to be as open as I could that I wasn’t sure whether I would even have a sexual relationship with her or other women.”
“But I think we both felt reassured that we enjoyed cuddling, holding hands, and kissing,” Matthew added.
The couple further revealed that they always tried to make their relationship stable by taking the help of therapy and regular discussions about their bonding and chemistry.
“A lot of my previous relationships revolved around that chemical attraction, not having that be the driving force was refreshing.
“I think that liking and matching with a person is so much more central to a long-term relationship,” Brynn said to The Sun.
“I had never had been in an intimate relationship, with a man or a woman,” said Matthew. “I didn’t even really know myself how strong my orientation to one gender or another might be.”
“While I was more attracted to men, in general, there had been a few women to whom I was really attracted. Obviously, not a great place for me or most of the women that I was dating.”
“I’ve heard gay men say that they can’t even imagine trying to be sexual with a woman, and I have never felt that way.” He said
In December 2017, the love birds got married in Utah and became able to consummate their marriage successfully.
“We share whether we need more if there’s anything the other can do to help make that a better part of our marriage, and so forth,” Embley told.
They have been married for almost four years and have two daughters together, one-year-old Guinevere, and two-year-old Amandine.
“Our religion teaches that marriage is only between a man and a woman, but we also want our children to be happy and secure in who they are and what or who they choose and are drawn to.”
She further said. “There are also people who assume things about our relationship that are just plain wrong, “I really try not to focus on the negative or let negative comments get me down – but they do, and one way I combat that is by sharing.”
“We are so happy in this quirky, unique, sublime relationship.”
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